If You Take Away the Physical Aspects, What Remains?

This generation is obsessed with the physical aspects of a relationship. Most of us are having sex with people we can’t pray with. We’re having sex with people we can’t lean on for emotional, mental and spiritual support. We’re sharing our bodies with people who wouldn’t share their umbrella with us in the rain. We’re having babies by people that never intended on spending a lifetime with us. What does that all mean? Essentially, in my opinion, of course, it means that feeding your physical desires trumps nourishing your spiritual, emotional and mental desires. You’d rather lay-up with someone that you know isn’t good for you rather than be alone because being alone scares you. You fear idleness instead of embracing the beauty of standing alone. Truth is, no one’s really standing beside you anyways if their only in your life to fulfill their sexual thirst. They don’t care about your mental health. They don’t care about your familial turmoil. They don’t care that your losing weight stressing over life’s current perils. As long as your sexual organs work, that’s good enough for them.

Is that all your worth?

If you answered “yes” to that question, please keep reading. If you were “undecided,” please keep reading. If you said “no,” but you know you really didn’t mean it, please keep reading. Some of you are going to say, “I know my worth, I’m good.” However, if sex is all your offering, that’s all you acknowledge that you are worth. For example, if the only thing Wal-Mart sold was food, then they must believe that’s all their worth, that’s the most lucrative item they could sell. However, Wal-Mart said, “Yeah, we want to sell food but let’s throw in furniture, kitchen ware, gardening items, books, clothes etc. because then we’ll be a mega-brand, a one-stop-shop.” You can be a one-stop-shop by providing sex, if you so choose, but to be a well-rounded one-stop-shop you also need to provide stability, positive energy, consistent prayer, a loving aura, a non-toxic mentality etc.

Enjoying sex is healthy but if that’s the entire premise of your “relationship,” your just having “relations,” there’s no “ship” in there because a relationship takes you places. Your headed right to nowhere and you know it but the sex is good so you stay. But trust me, an idle bed is better than laying next to a hoarder, a person who hoards your body for their personal use but then leaves your spirit, your mind and your emotions untouched.

Can I preach for a minute? One more time for those in the back.

An idle bed is better than laying next to a hoarder, a person who hoards your body for their personal use but then leaves your spirit, your mind and your emotions untouched.

It’s cliche to say your worth more but you really are. We love doing things out of order yet expecting the proper results. Your lover should also be your best friend, your biggest supporter, your sunshine in the rain, your healer, your favorite comedian, your spiritual partner, your mental uplift. Let’s go against the contemporary grain and build a foundation before structuring the house. Build a friendship before placing sex on the menu. Laugh together. Travel together. Truly enjoy one another without the introduction of sex. By building that solid foundation you can determine if that person brings more to the table than their flesh alone. In most cases, if you remove the flesh, just a hollow, skeletal shell remains. Delve beneath the fleshy surface and see what’s left over. If nothing, exit stage left.

Eventually, you’re going to want more than meaningless sex with meaningless people.

One day your going to desire soul-plunges and when that day comes the flesh will be minuscule in comparison.


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