Stop Healing and Dating at the Same Time

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I’m going to repeat the title of this article a couple more times, for those in the back.

Stop healing and dating at the same time. Stop healing and dating at the same time.

Some of you may disagree with the above statement but I don’t. In my opinion, recovering from a past trauma, a past relationship, current familial hardships etc. takes you out of the “date-worthy boat.” Hear me out. While you’re in a stage of healing you need to focus on healing fully, not partially, before you start dating. Let me also state, that when I say “dating,” I am referring to the dating of NEW people not the entertaining or re-rooting of old flings. The resurrection of old partners isn’t included in “new dating” because they’ve gotten a whiff of you already thus they know if they like what they smell or not. 

Dating a new person allows them to get to know you for the first time and you should want to put your best you forward not the damaged you, not the you that lacks self-confidence, not the you that wants your ex back but is just looking for someone to fill the gaps in time. However, that’s the you, you’ll be gifting this potential significant other if you’re not fully healed. Furthermore, stop looking for healing in dating. Stop believing that if the right person comes along that dating them will heal your insecurities, heal your past wounds, heal your broken heart from a previous love lost – it won’t. Someone coming along and loving you properly can place the Neosporin over the slices in your heart but your body has to do the healing, your soul and spirit have to do the healing or you’ll reject the love anyway.

One more time for those in the back.

Someone coming along and loving you properly can place the Neosporin over the slices in your heart but your body has to do the healing, your soul and spirit have to do the healing or you’ll reject the love anyway.

A lot of people start dating without even realizing that their not in a datable space, that’s the scary part. Some of you are pushing away good people because you haven’t properly healed, because your afraid of being alone, because you let your fears rule your dreams and your nightmares, because your holding on to a paralyzing hope of  “what if’s.” Take the proper time to heal, period. It’s a must. You have to heal you, God has to heal you but jumping into the next situationship or relationship won’t heal you. Essentially, stop trying to pick out shards of glass from your left foot just to place your right foot down in same place. Accept that you need to heal and then do that but don’t date until you’ve fully recovered.


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