One more time for those in the back.

Heal before having children so your children don’t have to heal from having you as a parent.

How many of you were raised by unhealed-parents? I know I was and years later I’m still healing from being raised by parents that weren’t quite ready, from parents that were still bitter, from parents who didn’t properly deal with their past traumas etc. I come from a ‘shove-it-down-family,’ if you shove the pain down deep enough, eventually it will go away – wrong. If you haven’t yet learned how to deal with your pain, if you haven’t found healthy outlets for your anger and trauma, don’t become a parent quite yet. You can avoid parenthood, there are many ways to do so.

Your children should not have to suffer because you still have demons to slay. Learn about healthy communication and constructive resolutions. Learn about effective positive language, be careful what you say and how you speak to your children. It’s sucks to have to heal from pain you didn’t cause, don’t gift that burden to your children. Pass down generational wealth, not generational pain and dysfunction.

One more time for those in the back. 

Pass down generational wealth, not generational pain and dysfunction.You don’t want to create a generational cycle of unhealthy relationships and toxic communicative styles. Hurt people, hurt people and hurt people that raise children, hurt those children, hopefully not physically of course, but emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Providing food, shelter and clothing for your children is not parenting, those are basic necessities that you would give even to a dog. Parenting is nurturing your child inside and out but, it’s hard to pour from an empty cup, be sure to fill yourself up first before creating a life that might drain you.

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