Success seems to be everywhere, around every corner, in every conversation, in every social media post, in every prayer. Success! Success! Success! We’re haunted by success! We know that success is attainable and it’s because of that knowing that we’re consumed by the pressure to be just that.
Do you have a healthy relationship with success? Yes or no?
I don’t. It’s in writing this article that I realized that. I equate success to my personal worth. The more successful I am, the more worthy I feel. The more productive I am, the closer I get to my epitome of success. I’ve become obsessed with the work of it all because I pair success with accolades and financial achievements which isn’t completely wrong but, it doesn’t leave room for being successfully happy, being successfully spiritual, etc.
When I finally publish my first book, that will make me feel successful but shouldn’t the fact that I started writing a book, finished it and then published it be the success story? I’ve learned how to invest my money and make it grow. However, it shouldn’t have to grow to six figures for me to feel like I’ve been successful at investing. The fact that I started, that I learned, that I now understand is the success.
At what point in your journey do you feel successful? Is it during the start of it, the process of it or the completion of it? It should be all of it. Life is about expansion, choices and trying new things. You’re not going to enjoy everything that you try but at least you tried. You didn’t spend life playing it safe, you took chances and put in the effort to diversity your palette.
How do you define success?
Google defines success as the accomplishment of an aim or purpose or the good or bad outcome of an undertaking. Most of us resonate with the second definition but the first one hits home for me. I used to abide by the second definition but placing an outcome in two categories of just “good” or “bad” leaves no room for the in between. There’s success in trying.
One more time for those in the back.
There’s success in trying.
You have to try new things to truly be aligned with the first definition. You shouldn’t only feel accomplished in the completion of something but in the journey as well. If you don’t begin to build a healthy relationship with success, you’ll never feel satisfied. You’ll never truly feel proud of yourself. How often do you compliment yourself, not just on a job well-done but a job well-started? Don’t compare your success to those around you either, doing so can undoubtedly hinder your ability to achieve your own successes.
You are the author of your life’s work, make it good.
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