Say it with me, “No.”
Not, “No, I can’t make it because….”
Not, “No, I don’t have the emotional bandwidth for x,y and z….”
If you don’t feel like going out with your friends because you don’t feel like being bothered or because you had a long day or because your going through a bad situationship break up or because you feel fat etc. Whatever the case may be, you don’t have to discuss it. Discuss it if you so choose or if you are comfortable but, it’s not a requirement to explain yourself. Let’s break the habit of explaining ourselves to people that could care less about the explanation anyways.
One more time for those in the back.
Let’s break the habit of explaining ourselves to people that could care less about the explanation anyways.
Some of your friends could care less about why you don’t want to go out, they just know that now they have to find someone else to go out with. Some people don’t care that your energy is off and you’re battling depression. Some people don’t care that your broke right now and you can’t afford to go out and stunt for the ‘Gram. But more importantly, why do you care to explain yourself? We are all adults. We are all adulting and that looks different for everyone.
Stop feeling obligated to saying, “Yes,” when you genuinely don’t want to. Don’t force yourself to do things you have no true interest in doing. Pay your taxes and what not but, don’t allow your life to be a daily cycle of doing things that you have no interest in – how mundane! Strip away the strong sense of duty you feel towards others, that could include family members, friends, jobs, etc. Strip it away. Take care of the responsibilities that you created for yourself but, don’t feel so indebted that you abandon, “No,” and become the “Yes person.”
Every question, every request, every offer does not require a yes. Ask yourself this, “How will saying ‘yes’ benefit me or how will saying ‘no’ benefit me?” If saying “no” equals peace, then you’ve got your answer. Don’t overcomplicate it and if they get mad at you for declining, you don’t need them anyway.
Now say it with me again, “Nooooooooooo!”
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