Don’t get comfortable with being the wounded victim. You are not a victim of your trials and tribulations , you’re a survivor thereof. You don’t have to be embarrassed or ashamed of your scars. You don’t have to carry them with you into every relationship, every friendship, every business opportunity etc. I have faced many hardships in my two decades plus and each one I’ve overcome. Low moments only mean that you are preparing for a rise. 

From the bottom, you can only go up. 

If you’re scarred from your divorce, that’s okay, give yourself time to recover, through prayer, therapy and time. If your scarred from a job loss that lead to you losing everything, don’t wallow in that moment in time, rise above it. It’s easier said than done, I’m aware of that but, it is possible. Hardships build character. If life was a breeze, what would you learn? Nothing, but how to go with the flow. When there are interruptions in your flow it causes you to think differently, to solve problems, to develop a solutions-based mindset – there’s power in that. There’s power in recovery. 

Scars are a reminder of what you’ve overcome not the continuance thereof; remember a scar is still technically healed.

For a wound to leave a scar, that means that it’s healed. Are you healed? Do you want to be healed? Do you like the pain? Most of us don’t prefer misery over joy yet, we’ll live a life and make choices that will lead to suffering. It’s time to divorce your bad habits, sever ties with people that don’t benefit you, pray more and complain less.

You can be a victim or you can be a survivor, a conqueror, a trailblazer – it’s all in the choices you make.

Scars are necessary evils. Life was never promised to be easy. Most of my readers are adults. We’re adulting – heavy – and sometimes it hits you all at once – the responsibility that is. You are responsible for your life, your actions and your reactions. However, you are not always responsible for the wrong that’s done to you, to the people who have lied to you, cheated on you, abused you, made false promises to you etc. But, you are responsible for your reaction and your recovery.

The scars people leave behind create new art to your body, they make you unique, they force you to be strong and they gift you experience – wear them proudly. 

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