Does the idea of success feel heavy to you, dense even?
If so, that’s due to how you view success and what it means to you, what it looks like, what it feels like. Success like love is unique to each person – definitions may vary. What does success look like to you and do you have a healthy relationship with success? Let’s go over a couple of reasons why you feel unsuccessful and let’s shift the narrative.
Reason #1: Comparisons.
Comparisons will ruin you every time. Comparing your life and your story to your favorite social media guru or #relationshipgoals is what’s tampering with your ability to be successful. You’re not chasing your success, your chasing theirs and that’s a grave mistake. What’s meant for you is already yours but you can’t see the doors opening in front of you if you’re looking at everyone else’s doors behind you. Your door is colossal; it’s just waiting for you to walk through it.
Reason #2: You’re unhappy.
Success is a joyous feeling but it comes with great expectancy, responsibility and resilience and to get there you need to believe that it’s possible. When you use kind words with yourself, its hard to be unhappy. Negative self-talk and hateration-in-this-dancery only produces pessimistic and cynical outcomes. Being happy is a choice as is being unhappy, choose wisely if success is your goal.
Reason #3: Lack of funds.
If your ideology of success includes wealth then a lack thereof makes you feel less than. However, do note that lacking the proper funds is a choice. There’s a million ways to make a million dollars. Learn new things, take courses, go to networking events, learn about the financially sound constants like the stock market, real estate etc. Ignorance is a choice in the age of YouTube and online courses – do better.
Reason #4: No love life.
For my people that include love into their ideology of success, not having it makes you feel like you’re unworthy, undeserving and broken etc. but that’s not true. It’s just not your time yet. Truth be told, some of your are praying for outcomes you’re not yet ready for. For example, instead of praying for a husband alone also ask God to prepare you to be a wife. Work on your mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. Work on your conflict resolutions. Work on being forgiving, you’ll need a lot of forgiveness for a successful relationship and eventual marriage. Become the best version of yourself so that you can receive what you already are.
Reason #5: You have a productivity obsession.
When you’re obsessed with being productive and learning new things, enough is never enough. You never feel satisfied or accomplished. You never want to take breaks. You believe in the #nosleep mantra. You’re essentially tormented by the thought of stillness. But silence, peace and solitude are necessary for your sanity. Don’t go crazy chasing success, it’s meant to be enjoyed as well – remember that.
If any of these reasons or all of them apply to you, work on it – daily. The first step is acknowledging the problem, the second step is taking action. Success requires action. Make a list of accomplishments monetary and otherwise that would make you feel successful and then start checking them off.
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