We’ve tainted the term “friends with benefits” through TikTok meme’s and relational ties but I love my friends with benefits.
How could I say such a thing, right? Let me be clear, I mean just that, “I love friends with benefits.”
All the people in my life that have “friend” attached to their title benefit me in some way. We’re grown now, so having friends that you can simply go to the club with or gossip with is not enough nor is it beneficial in any way. I firmly believe that we are all using each other. Everyone in your life should serve a purpose. I have friends that are like my personal therapists. I have friends that I make money with. I have friends that I can be creative with. I have friends that I can network with etc. but everyone has a role to play and I have no shame in that.
I also take pride in being a friend that you can benefit from – it’s a two-way street. Let’s learn a new skill together. Let’s go to that networking event. Let’s keep each other uplifted and inspired. Let’s pray for each other. Let’s work out together.
My favorite question to ask my readers is, “Who are your idols?” What kind of friends do you think your idols have, useless, toxic friends or intelligent, beneficial ones? Stop hanging around and associating yourself with people that don’t benefit you. People that stress you out and drag you into their chaos are not friends. A true friend is a rare but necessary find. Cherish the ones that you have and don’t be afraid to loosen your grip from the friends that bring more negativity than positivity. The we’ve-been-friends-since-the-sandbox mantra carries a burden of loyalty to people that you’ve simply outgrown.
One more time for those in the back.
The we’ve-been-friends-since-the-sandbox mantra carries a burden of loyalty to people that you’ve simply outgrown.
You shouldn’t feel bad about your growth, you should instead celebrate it with those that are growing too. Adulthood is as hard as you make it. Surround yourself with people who inspire you and those that keep you uplifted, encouraged and determined. You need friends with benefits and if you don’t have any – go get you some!
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