Stop dating people that your bare minimums are too much for.

One more time for those in the back.

Stop dating people that your bare minimums are too much for.

Someone’s, “Wow, that’s a lot,” is someone else’s, “Wow, that’s all you need.” Stop entertaining people where loyalty, consistency, consideration, patience and peace are a burden. You are not a burden; you’re a blessing. Stop focusing on people that have their B’s confused when it comes to you. Do you know what happens when you continue to date people that view you as a burden? You begin to not only believe that you are a burden but you also shift your standards to fit their ideal. During that shift, you are lowering your standards as well. But believe me, you’re not requiring too much, you’re just asking the wrong person.

One more time for those in the back.

You’re not requiring too much, you’re just asking the wrong person.

The right person will be emboldened by your requirements not burdened by them. Hoping that the wrong person will become the right person due to your personal persistence to see it through, doesn’t guarantee that it will work out in your favor and should you really want it to?

I want people to come to me as they are and I must live in that reality with them not in the fantasy of them meeting my expectations. Y’all might’ve missed that, let’s run it back – say it with me:

I want people to come to me as they are and I must live in that reality with them not in the fantasy of them meeting my expectations.

Living in your reality doesn’t have to be this grim, lackluster pool of monotony. It can have spontaneous flair, love and joy but who you allow into your life will shape your reality. Be careful, pensively particular and remember that you are not a burden, you’re a blessing.

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