As I mentioned in a previous article, I’m in a season of “No.” It’s my favorite word these days. Its’ a complete sentence and its’ final. It comes with no explanation or soothing reasoning. It comes with no watered down excuses or reschedules. I love that for me and when you step into a season of “No,” I’ll love that for you as well.
Let’s move on. Today we’re going to discuss denying people access to you. You’re too available and not only that, you’ve made yourself available for the wrong people. Now, if this doesn’t resonate with you, feel free to stop reading here – I understand.
However, if this message does speak to you, decide today, not tomorrow, that you are going to revoke certain people’s access to you.
At first, you may feel guilty but do your best to remember that the people you are cutting off don’t feel guilty about being a bad friend to you or for not checking on you in the past six months or for only contacting you when they need something. I get it, you want to be the kind of person that you want to receive but when you are being good to bad people in hopes that your good will rub off on them – it may, but it wouldn’t take months or years for them to reciprocate your good energy.
Lastly, be unapologetic about your decision. Deny them access to you, for a limited time or forever. I know forever sounds rather daunting but some people only enter your life for a season not an eternity. Either way, you deserve the best of company and settling for anything less seems rather pointless.
If you accept less, you end up with less – simple.
I’ve prayed for discernment for quite some time now and God has delivered. It’s as if he’s given me new sight and now I see people through a new lens, a more accurate prescription thus I see now, ever so clearly and that’s what led to this recent decision to cut people off, without a texted paragraph or lengthy phone call. I’m just done.
I desire an overflow of blessings and it starts with cutting off the leeches and people that contact me out of convenience versus habit. If my presence in your life is deemed as optional consider your access denied.
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THE IKON. 