Typically, people apply for jobs that they’re qualified for. You wouldn’t apply for a CEO position straight out of college. You wouldn’t apply to a Senior Technology Specialist position when you just got out of law school, right? Right.
That said, it would behoove you to date like an employer. In other words, think of dates as interviews and don’t go on one until they’ve at least met your minimum requirements.
Minimum requirements, for example:
- Good hygiene
- A job
- A car
- Quality first date choices
- Common interests
- Financially stable
- Attractive (to you) etc.
Your minimum requirements may be more in depth but you get the gist. Sometimes we entertain people that we know are under-qualified for our position. We see potential in them and hope that, that potential will blossom into full blown action but rarely is that the case yet, you’ll keep rehiring the same unqualified bum for a role that you keep raising the requirements on. Now he needs to make six-figures, now he needs to be empathetic, childless, in shape and so-on.
This isn’t Build-a-Bear, you can’t stuff your desired significant other with the right fluff and hope that they come out as you desire but you can stop dating people that don’t even come close to getting hired. If you’ve worked diligently on becoming the best version of yourself, date people who complement that. Stop dating women with crazy exes because you like a little dysfunction in your relationships. Get over your hood-n**** faze.
One more time for those in the back.
Get over your hood-n**** faze.
If you feel personally attacked – that one’s definitely for you! Heal first before moving on and treat dates like interviews. Don’t interrogate them but ask the questions that could lead to deal breakers for you, that way you know what you need to know up front and not six months later. Select good candidates and although you can’t check references per se (unless they were referred to you by someone you know) pay attention, take notes if you have to and keep conducting interviews until someone deserves to get hired.
You got this!
If you found this article helpful, insightful or just plain old necessary, please share and repost – it’s free and I’d gladly appreciate it. Thank you in advance.