Sometimes when a relationship, situationship, friendship etc. doesn’t work out, we only recall the bad that came from that experience. But that perspective not only limits your scope, it also causes you to miss a rather large point. People can enter your life to show you what you don’t want. We expect people to show us what we desire but trust me, knowing what you … Continue reading I Know What I Don’t Want!

Are you a patient person? Yes or no? I’ve learned to be.  Patience is necessary because custom orders take longer. You desire a bold, exciting and unapologetic life, right? You want to travel, procreate, party, love, succeed? A basic life doesn’t require patience just complacency. That said, when you desire a personalized experience in this life, not one copy and pasted from societal norms and … Continue reading Custom Orders Take Longer

To be happy, what a chore it once was. I thought happiness was linked to a healthy family, money, vacations, a good job, kids, the perfect house, a nice car etc. but it’s not. Materialisms gift moments of happiness but not true internal joy. Being happy is merely a decision. Each day you can choose to be miserable or to be happy – simple, but … Continue reading 10 Things I Wish I Knew About Happiness When I Was Miserable!

If your absence doesn’t matter, neither does your presence. One more time for those in the back. If your absence doesn’t matter, neither does your presence. If someone doesn’t feel your absence, don’t gift them your presence. Everyone wants to be cared about but sometimes you’re seeking care and affection from someone that could go with or without you. You think that you’re reprimanding them … Continue reading Let Me Remove Myself

We tend to lean towards what’s familiar. We like familiar smells, familiar tasks, familiar jobs and yes, we also like familiar people. Sometimes out of a fear of starting over, we will double-back to people we left alone for a reason, a damn good one – typically. Why? Because familiar is easier, less unknowns, less start-up time but it may end in the same way … Continue reading Stop “double-backing” out of comfort.

As I mentioned in a previous article, I’m in a season of “No.” It’s my favorite word these days. Its’ a complete sentence and its’ final. It comes with no explanation or soothing reasoning. It comes with no watered down excuses or reschedules. I love that for me and when you step into a season of “No,” I’ll love that for you as well. Let’s … Continue reading Access Denied!

Stop dating people that your bare minimums are too much for. One more time for those in the back. Stop dating people that your bare minimums are too much for. Someone’s, “Wow, that’s a lot,” is someone else’s, “Wow, that’s all you need.” Stop entertaining people where loyalty, consistency, consideration, patience and peace are a burden. You are not a burden; you’re a blessing. Stop … Continue reading Blessings Over Burdens

“No” is a complete sentence. One more time for those in the back. “No” is a complete sentence. I’ve confidently stepped, damn near ran, into a season of “No.” I don’t owe you an explanation for my “No;” it stands alone, idle, proud and necessary. My “No” is personal and I owe it to myself to spread it around. I’ve spent years saying yes to … Continue reading Step Into a Season of “No.”

We live in a generation where we are literally referred to as followers and the more you have, the more desirable you appear yet all the more elusive in the same. Some gorgeous nobody from the middle of nowhere garners millions of followers and all of a sudden this faceless neophyte becomes a six-figure-earner and party flyer cover-star. We love the idea of being followed, … Continue reading It’s better to be alone than in bad company.

Stop looking for outlets in people that don’t want you to plug into them. One more time for those in the back. Stop looking for outlets in people that don’t want you to plug into them. Does that make any sense? If not, allow me to rephrase. Stop looking for a power source from those who prefer you depleted. Stop looking for a plug, when … Continue reading Unplug.