It can be exhausting, waiting on other people to rise to an occasion or standard, that you’ve set but that they have no intention of rising to. It can be exhausting, when you put yourself in a productivity binge – I must be productive, I must be doing something, did I do enough today, am I lazy, what would Diddy do etc.? It can be … Continue reading Are you exhausted?

One more time for those in the back. You can’t change people. People change, when and if they want to. They won’t change for you or your kids or your relationship or because you keep whining about it. None of that really matters. That said, do I believe that people have influence over others – yes, I do, but I don’t believe that people change … Continue reading You Can’t Change People

Are you a good listener? I, in the past, typically listened to respond but very rarely was I truly taking in what was being stated to me, especially if it was any form of criticism. Most of us, are more than likely guilty of doing the same, I’m just willing to admit it. So, I’ll ask you again, “Are you a good listener?” If you’re … Continue reading Listen More, Talk Less!

One more time for those in the back. If you associate love with war – you’ll stay! The classic metaphor, “Love is a battlefield,” is one that some of you take quite literally, but you shouldn’t. When your significant other becomes your sparing partner – it’s time to leave, especially if we’re talking physical warfare and not just emotional, mental and spiritual warfare. A toxic … Continue reading If You Associate Love With War – You’ll Stay!

Are you attentive? Do you truly pay attention to people, their actions, their words, their intentions, their mannerisms, or lack there of? I believe that if you pay close enough attention to a person, during the dating phase, you only need one week to determine if this person would be a good fit for you. Yes, seven days. I know what you’re thinking, “How can … Continue reading Give Them One Week!

You need to set some boundaries. A life without boundaries = open season on your a**! When you avoid setting boundaries, you are only encouraging disrespect and a lot of stress. Stress is the number one killer and in most cases, its avoidable. Letting people use you as a doormat to a home you’re not even welcome in is pure blasphemy. One more time for … Continue reading A Life Without Boundaries

It ain’t trickin` if you got it! I will always trick on me because I earned it, because I’m worth it and because I deserve the best of everything and I will always gift that to myself. Never stop dating yourself, rather you are in a relationship or if you’re single. Treat yourself to vacations, gifts, a new home, a trip to the hair salon, … Continue reading 5 Reasons Why You Should Date Yourself

Typically, people apply for jobs that they’re qualified for. You wouldn’t apply for a CEO position straight out of college. You wouldn’t apply to a Senior Technology Specialist position when you just got out of law school, right? Right. That said, it would behoove you to date like an employer. In other words, think of dates as interviews and don’t go on one until they’ve … Continue reading Date Like an Employer!

Sometimes when a relationship, situationship, friendship etc. doesn’t work out, we only recall the bad that came from that experience. But that perspective not only limits your scope, it also causes you to miss a rather large point. People can enter your life to show you what you don’t want. We expect people to show us what we desire but trust me, knowing what you … Continue reading I Know What I Don’t Want!

Are you a patient person? Yes or no? I’ve learned to be.  Patience is necessary because custom orders take longer. You desire a bold, exciting and unapologetic life, right? You want to travel, procreate, party, love, succeed? A basic life doesn’t require patience just complacency. That said, when you desire a personalized experience in this life, not one copy and pasted from societal norms and … Continue reading Custom Orders Take Longer